How much disrespect is alllowed on Computer Audiophile?

[tmtomh]

3 hours ago, buonassi said:

I'm not suggesting that people would be banned for their stances.... rather, how poorly they behave.

 

I think that's exactly what @The Computer Audiophile does.

 

I get that some people think Chris is not strict enough when it comes to enforcing civility, and they'd like him to delete more comments, warn members sooner, and perhaps ban members for misbehavior less extreme than the current threshold.

 

But I have to say, whenever this complaint about the forum comes up, it seems to be a rather hypocritical complaint, because the complainer (or the party the complainer feels has been wronged) usually is just as much of an active participant in the bad dynamic as the people they are complaining about.

 

Look, it sucks to feel ganged up on. But if you hold the minority opinion in a thread, that does not automatically mean the majority is acting uncivilly or in bad faith - and it most certainly does not automatically mean that you are acting civilly or in good faith.

 

My view is that Chris does a great job, and even if you don't fully agree with his approach to moderation in every instance, it's well within the margin of error for what's reasonable and proper (not to mention that we all get to use this site and all its info and resources for free).

 

(And don't get me started on the "I agree Chris does a good job, but he doesn't always see the bad stuff in every thread" argument. That's what the "Report post" button is for. This argument is a red herring IMHO, a way of criticizing the moderation here without sounding like one is criticizing Chris.)

[tmtomh]

6 minutes ago, buonassi said:

 

I haven't been on this forum long enough to know how Chris moderates, but I certainly am willing to give him the benefit of the doubt and didn't mean to imply he's not already doing a great job.  If my comments were interpreted as such, I'm sorry.  I should've worded them more carefully.  

 

For what it's worth, I wasn't thinking of you when I wrote my comment.

[tmtomh]

43 minutes ago, beancounter said:

 

Only in Africa

 

Asia.

[tmtomh]

I'm kind of in awe at how far off the rails this thread went, and especially the particular direction in which it careened of the tracks.

 

@bigbob, for what it's worth I found your posts up until your airline story to be quite generous, civil, and reasonable. And even your airline story I found to be told in a civil and polite tone.

 

However, I do find myself feeling quite similarly to @mansr. You can't really say how awesome it was to be able to sit next to a beautiful woman while she breastfed, and then in the next breath defend yourself against criticism by saying the woman was "modest" in how she breastfed.

 

If you found her breastfeeding to be a beautiful, life-affirming moment and you were trying to tell us that you felt fortunate to be present for it, especially compared to being stuck next to a 7-foot guy, then I guess I could accept that.

 

But to any rational reader, the clear message of your story was that you found the woman attractive, and in addition you enjoyed the extra bonus of her asking you if it was okay if she could expose her breast while seated right next to you. You were politely telling us that you got to see a hot woman's naked breast - and in that case you should not be surprised or get your back up when someone observes that it's kind of creepy to brag about that (however civil your tone when doing so) to 100s or 1000s of strangers here on the CA forums.